According to the Relaxation and Stress Workbook...
Irrational Idea number 8 is:
-You need something other or stronger or greater than yourself to rely on.
It goes on to say,
This belief becomes a psychological trap in which your independent judgement, and the awareness of your particular needs are undermined by a reliance on higher authority.
Plus, you don't want to suffer for other people's sins.
Passion should be full of ecstasy and loving emotion, and nothing like being nailed to a cross.
Right??
The other (20) irrational ideas are:
-It is an absolute necessity for an adult to have love and approval from peers, family and friends.
-You must be unfailingly competent and almost perfect in all you undertake.
-Certain people are evil, wicked, and villainous, and should be punished.
-It is horrible when people and things are not the way you would like them to be.
-External events cause most human misery- people simply react as events trigger their emotions.
-You should feel fear or anxiety about anything that is unknown, uncertain, or potentially dangerous.
-It is easier to avoid than to face life difficulties and responsibilities.
-The past has a lot to do with determining the present
-Happiness can be achieved by inaction, passivity and endless leisure.
-You are helpless and have no control over what you experience or feel.
-People are fragile and should never be hurt.
-Good relationships are based on mutual sacrifice and a focus on giving.
-If you don't go to great lengths to please others, they will abandon or reject you.
-When people disapprive of you, it invariably means you are wrong or bad.
-Happiness, pleasure and fulfillment can only occur in the presence of others, and being alone is horrible.
-There is perfect love, and a perfect relationship
-You shouldn't have to feel pain, you are entitled to a good life.
-Your worth as a person depends on how much you achieve and produce.
-Anger is automatically bad and destructive.
-It is bad or wrong to be selfish.